A story of hair, heavy goals and healing.
I started the year with huge expectations. Of myself, mainly. And of life. Some dreams came true. Others died prematurely or simply faded away.
Now that 2015 is drawing to a close, I’m resisting temptation to bypass the present, into the ‘newness’ of a new year. Because as tempting as it feels to map out 2016 so it can be better and bigger than ever, I’m holding onto the wisdom I gained from setting one small and ‘silly’ goal.
Since I had plenty of serious 2015 goals to accomplish, I purposely chose a frivolous, fun one that didn’t matter than much. It wasn’t a SMART goal. It wasn’t Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic or Timely.
It was simply to Grow My Hair…. to see how long it would grow.
The inspiration for this “goal” was partly due to:
a) reading an article connecting hair length to intuition and connecting to the earth. (I thought it would be fun to test the theory).
b) wanting a less ‘heavy’ goal amongst the serious ones, and
c) pure vanity
Surprisingly, even though it was a silly, frivolous, non-SMART goal, the experience of growing my hair taught me TWO important life lessons.
HAIR/LIFE LESSON ONE:
What you DON’T DO makes a difference.
Throughout January I read every article Google could give me on How to Grow Long Luscious Hair. Every article insisted that’s it’s not what you do, but what you don’t do that encourages health growth. You can’t make hair grow faster by adding anything in, rather by taking things out of your daily routine.
To let hair grow, you have to stop getting it cut, stop using shit products, stop blow drying, stop doing stuff to it in general. Don’t brush it when it’s wet. Don’t add chemicals to it. Just stop…. and let it grow.
As I reflect on 2015, I realise that to let myself grow into a more luscious state, I’ve learnt from my hair that it’s more about what I don’t do. It’s about what I can stop doing and let go of that allows me to grow.
As you ponder the ending of a year and the beginning of a new one, I invite you consider: What will you let go? What could you stop doing? How can you get out of my own way?
Put another way, what are the poisons and patterns in your life that halt growth? Can you commit to chucking them out?
HAIR/LIFE LESSON TWO
A ‘goal’ is an outward symbol of an inner yearning.
Sure, I was growing my hair partially for vanity reasons… but what compelled me more was this link between hair and intuition and closeness to the earth.
Even though my husband enjoyed mocking me about my hair – to-earth connection, and lots of friends thought I’d gone a bit crazy… I knew this act was more symbolic than literal (even though the literal link had been made).
Growing my hair was just an outward sign of an inner yearning to forge a closer relationship to nature (as well as my inner knowing).
We are a symbolic species, after all.
So whether you’re setting goals now, waiting for the new year, or going totally goal-less (you rebel!), I’d love you to share ONE thing (pattern, habit, thing, activity) you’re letting go of (and why).
I have a feeling that the answer has magic in it.
Love Kate x